Each of our life paths are not uniquely our own , but mostly overlap others' paths . My path has been influenced by parents , grandparents, aunts and uncles , cousins, friends , teachers , et al. My Self is not predestined, but made as I go through life . And my Self is very much like other Selves. We are not isolated individuals. Human “I”s are mostly We’s. You don’t need to avoid influencing people . You might focus on having a good influence.