Trans is inherently male supremacism

2016: A friend put me in touch with a small group of abuse survivors recently and I’ve been struggling a lot not just with all my own traumas, but also with the feeling that I’m part of a large number of survivors who are being swept under the rug by mainstream feminists. You see, I’m finding a lot of people who had been sexually, physically, and psychologically abused by their partners who are trans women. Every single one of them had the same experience as me, which involved being accused of being a TERF or a bigot if they ever even thought about calling for help. I’m not the only person who once called the police on someone who had assaulted me, and then was told that I was a bad person because you can’t be a trans person or trans ally if you would ever call the police when a trans woman assaults you. It doesn’t matter how much they (or I) stood up for the rights of trans women, including trans prisoners. We were called bigots because we asked for help when we had been abused. These people, like me, were gaslit and threatened if they, even for a moment, questioned that people who use penises to rape other people– and who express and carry out misogynistic views about their DFAB partners– might not actually be trans. When we were raped or beaten by people larger and stronger than us, we were the bad guys because our position as abuse victims supposedly pales in comparison to the inherent victimhood involved in being a trans woman. And then I see these stats that make me feel sick: http://www.jaapl.org/content/16/2/153.full.pdf That transsexualism is the “primary paraphilia” of 51.7% of sex offenders. Being trans is twice as common as pedophilia, among sex offenders. I try to make it so those stats can’t possibly reflect reality or anything like it. But it’s upsetting to me. I don’t know how many people there are who are in this position, but we’re here and we’re being silenced by trans-inclusive feminists. We’re told that trans women’s rights need to be front and center in feminist discussions, even when trans women are involved in abuse and violence toward other women. We’re told that our voices don’t count because trans women’s voices are supposed to be louder and more important. I don’t want to be a TERF. I don’t consider myself a TERF. I myself am agender, under the trans umbrella, although I’m told that presenting as masculine-of-center means that I have inherent privilege over trans women, so it supposedly means that I can still be a transmisogynist. I know and love many, many trans women and I don’t want to exclude them from feminism or women’s space and I to this day believe that trans women’s rights need to be a priority in feminism. But I feel really sick and sad knowing that a lot of people are raped and abused by trans women but shamed and silenced into not getting help. Mainstream feminism needs to address this and it’s not fair that the only people speaking up about this are TERFs, and if I dare utter any of these words in trans-inclusive spaces, I’m just going to be shamed and silenced again.