Relatedly , I recently realized the love is not primarily a feeling . It’s action . A main form is sacrificing for others ; sacrificing is sort of your “fire” metaphor. <


Jesus’s ultimate sacrifice is thereby ultimate love ( for me metaphorically ; I don’t believe we are born in sin ; so he really didn’t have to make the sacrifice to save us because we don’t need to be saved; however the logic applies to real life of ordinary people ) . Taking care of people is the day to day love action .


Woman do the predominance of caring labor , and thereby are superior to men , in general.